i love the woman i’ve become because i’ve fought to become her.
i’ve fought to become the person i am today. mental health is something i now feel zero shame discussing, yet i recognize that many remain silent.
i remember feeling the same fear in speaking up about the thoughts i was having. originally i had to fight alone, but over the years i have connected with others who understand. i’ve gathered skills + coping mechanisms, found what works best for me, + learned to listen to my body. i’ve also worked hard to reverse the negative thoughts through replacing them with positive ones + affirmations of self worth. simply thinking positively is a form of self love, a very powerful one at that.
it is serendipitous that this week is mental health awareness week + during this self love series. if i could provide any form of advice to anyone, regardless of their specific struggle, it would be to keep fighting. i wish i could take away the isolation, fear, + shame around discussing personal issues or mental illness. this week of awareness is another step toward the ultimate goal of ending the stigma.
i know how critical it is to have a support system + others who understand. however, it begins with the individual + no matter how much love everyone provides you, giving yourself that same love is the only way to fully recover + thrive.
throughout my eating disorder i was told to constantly challenge the wheel of negative thoughts that turned within my mind. to redirect the wheel. imagine not having control of a steering wheel, or being stuck in auto pilot, the thoughts just moving forward on their own. it seemed impossible.
eventually, i had enough. put my foot down + decided i no longer wanted to be my own punching bag. my body didn’t deserve it anymore. this was the same body that allows me to give a hug, get through a yoga practice, + laugh (the deep belly laugh kind). it’s the vehicle that enables me to feel joy. what a beautiful vehicle.
you most definitely deserve to take control of that wheel. fight until you feel as if it is directed in your favor. remind yourself of your strengths daily + feel pride in yourself. self love begins with the reversal of negative thoughts + by showering yourself with compassion. just try it.
step 1. pick your affirmation- “i am worthy” “i am lovable” “i am capable” – whatever resonates with you, the words you need to hear.
step 2.-38401094…. repeat. over + over tell yourself this affirmation until your negative thought pattern has been replaced. rewire that brain. take the steering wheel.
oh yeah, besides all this self love stuff, this post is to celebrate fall + the beauty of this season. i went pumpkin/apple picking yesterday. watch out for some apple recipes in the near future. i loved the peace of mind i felt as i enjoyed the beautiful day- without the chatter of negativity i used to hear even in the best of times.
until the apple ideas begin, here is a recipe with yummy fall flavors. the granola is baked in minutes, can be easily gluten free + plus side, made my apartment smell like heaven while it cooked. oh, tastes amazing too.
love yourself // pumpkin, cranberry almond granola //
for this granola you will need the following:
- 3 cups rolled oats (gluten free optional)
- 1 1/2 cups chopped almonds
- 1/2 cup raw pepitas
- 3 tbsp of flax seed
- 1/2 cup dried cranberries
- 4 tbsp coconut sugar
- ¼ tsp of sea salt
- 3/4 tsp nutmeg
- 1 tbsp of cinnamon
- 1/4 cup coconut oil
- 1/4 cup maple syrup
- 1/4 cup molasses
- 1/2 cup pumpkin puree
preheat oven to 350 degrees. mix the oats, almonds, pepitas, cranberries, flax seed, coconut sugar, salt, nutmeg + cinnamon in a large bowl. in a small saucepan, heat the coconut oil, maple syrup, molasses + pumpkin puree over low heat until liquid. pour over the dry mixture and quickly combine. spread evenly on baking sheet + bake for 20 – 30 minutes shaking granola periodically for an even bake.
this week i challenge you to see the beauty not only in the season but in yourself. plus with a bowl of delicious granola, it’s going to be ok.
+ if you’re not, remember that’s ok, too. you will be. + tell yourself how capable you are to kale it.